Beautiful infatuation

Recent encounter with one of my church group members taught me some lesson.
He revealed when I gave him a lift home that he recently asked out some other girl in my church but it didn't bear a fruit. He was shy with a little blushed face when telling me the story. He said he even consulted with another church friend who he thought might be more familiar with girls' matter from experience without knowing how this will turn out. Of course, he got into an awkward situation with her, and just to ease off, he said, he made her a cocktail shot at a friend's home and even danced to entertain her.

Somehow I found the story compelling so that he pulled off something I haven't done and wouldn't do. I will give him that he got a gut.
In reflecting myself, thinking that I know how to seduce girls might have obstructed me from loving someone deep down. Love is in the end self-indulgence to benefit the giver himself. Of course, one of it's by-products is benefiting the one receiving love if you see from different angle, but it surely benefit the giver. And the sole purpose of genuine love is to have our creator, God, happy.

Maybe I'm jealous of his reckless courage (?) and energy flowing into him when he did it. I'm almost 10 years older than him that I can provide him a better solution(?) laden from my experience if all he needs is just to have her. But I didn't and wouldn't because I believe in failure; I believe in feeling crush and subsequent heartbreak. He will someday reflect himself with a smiley face and a crinkled nose in that he ever loved someone one way, a beautiful infatuation.

As a spiritual brother(tho I don't know him well in personal), I hope he continues to have that feeling, not necessarily with that particular girl and not forcing it to diminish out of his pain, and balances out with love of God and grow in getting a better sense of love than does I currently possess.